Rachel Olsen is holding a devotional carnival over on her blog this week so head over and check it out. It's sure to be encouraging to all! The topic this month is friendship...and I couldn't think of a thing to say about it yesterday. But today is a new day and I have been given words to say (believe it or not :-))!
When I think about friendship, I tend to think about what it has meant negatively in my life. You encounter all kinds of friends over the span of a lifetime. The early friends that you drift away from as you go through school. The friends that you make in high school that you leave behind when you go off to college. The college friends that are there to see you at your worst (or your best-depending on your college experience). But what kind of friend is there that will last the test of time?
I am on a (mostly) superficial friendship basis with all of the girls I've been friends with over the years. I speak to them when I see them out and about, but have no real relationship with any of them. I am not a person that goes out of my way to establish or maintain friendships with other people. That's just the way I am. My husband used to say I was antisocial. I am glad to say that I am much better at socializing than I used to be. But still am not very persistant about seeking people out for friendship.
As I get more invovled in the blogging communities (I never knew such a world existed) I see the importance of 'girl-friends'. Those girls that you can hang out with and do something fun that you've never done before. Something you just couldn't do with your husband or kids. Like knitting. I don't know why I have the sudden strange interest in knitting, but there it is. Maybe it's the fact of doing something with your hands that you can say 'I made this all by myself'. Kinda sounds like the old Shake and Bake commercial... Anyway, that kind of friend that will tackle something ridiculous with you. The kind that you can count on when you need a hand or an ear to talk to without judgement or opinons. The kind of friend that will tell you the truth even when you don't want to hear it. I have friends, but no one I've let be that much in my business...know what I mean? I have good intentions, but life gets in the way and I make that my excuse...no time for anyone other than my family. That is just what it is....an excuse. Relationships are hard. You have to put forth an effort. But what if you're rejected? But what if you're not?
God designed us for companionship. He created Eve for Adam as a helpmate, but also as a companion I think. So he'd have someone to share life with (although she ended up being his downfall as well-can't have everything, I guess). So what I'm talking myself into is going out of my way to be a friend to someone in order to build relationships. That shouldn't be so hard. I can do that. I don't want this earthly life to pass by and miss out on the thing that is 'girl-time'. You can only have so much 'husband, kid, family-time' until you start to go a little bit insane :-) (no offense to those mentioned).
'Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.' John 15:13
'Wounds from a friend can be trusted...' Proverbs 27:6a
'A friend loves at all times...' Proverbs 17:17a