First of all, let me say Happy Birthday to my wonderful husband. He's halfway to 40 today...just a friendly reminder to him in case he forgot. For those of you who know Jon, you know he's just....well Jon! Bless his heart, he was trying to do something for me so I must give him credit for that, he was putting rat poison under the house this morning and his two favorite girls were helping him (annie and chloe, the dogs). Now let me just inject a side note here...I do not like mice. Not one bit...at all! I live in the country and it's just a problem that you have. I am a city girl at heart...let's just leave it at that!
So anyway, he was putting rat poison under the house and I left to go to the doctor. He calls me about an hour later with the words, "We might have a problem." I immediately think something is wrong with Sam. But it was Chloe the psycho weenie dog. She had gotten into the rat poison and eaten 2 containers of it. He's like, "Well what should I do?" I say, "Better call the vet before she bleeds out all over you and Sam." All the while I'm thinking to myself, "Why did you not put the dog in the house? Did you not think she would get into the stuff? I mean we're talking about psycho weenie dog here!"
This is where Proverbs 10:19 becomes truth.
"When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise."
I had to choose in that moment whether to let loose on him or be graceful and just give my advice. Ok so maybe I mixed it a little, but I really was trying to be good. God gave me this man with his faults (which are very few) and his strengths and I am his helpmate.
"It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18
I need to remember to hold my tongue when I should because harsh words tear relationships down and cause strife.
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1
The best thing I can do for my marriage is to be kind even when I don't want to be.
"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Prov. 16:24
Holding my tongue and being graceful with my words help me to be a wife that my husband can be proud of not one that he wants to hide.
"A wife of noble character is her husbands crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Proverbs 12:4