Thursday, February 10, 2011
Crazy Little Thing Called Love
Where do I go with this one? Don't we all enter into marriage on the blind side? If we had our senses about us, most of us wouldn't have married the person we did (not that this is true in my case). In any event, there are just things that we wished we would've known before we took the big leap into forever.
I must say that my hubby and I did the whole pre-marital counseling thing and did a really good job at bumbling through a really uncomfortable time. Neither one of us likes to talk about 'stuff' and to be encouraged to do so just was not our cup of tea. But we did it and I'm glad we did. I read the books, he didn't, and we got married. And that was that.
BUT- there are some things that I wish I'd known. Or maybe I did know, but just didn't want to listen to. Like the fact that it was OK for him to go play basketball with his buddies. I wish he'd have known once was OK, but not twice a week. I also wished I'd have known we were both messy. Maybe I'd have taken more of an initiative to be cleaner, but probably not.
I have to say that that first year was a hard one. Had we not believed in the institute of marriage and the fact that we were stuck with each other no matter what, we probably wouldn't have made the effort to make it work. Unfortunately, we are seeing that a lot lately, even in the church. Kids getting married because they think it will be fun, but when they find out it's not so much at first--they just give up and go their different ways.
'Then they (older women) can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.' Titus 2:4-5